In this post we will briefly study Adam, the first husband and father in human history. As we examine his life, we will focus on the following three aspects of his life: (1) his wedding, (2) his work, and (3) his woe.
Genesis 2:21-22 records the account of the first wedding in the history of humankind: “So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.”
God created Eve and brought her to Adam to be Adam’s wife. And God Himself officiated their wedding. From this event we learn three significant lessons.
First, Eve is God’s precious gift to Adam.
When I officiate a wedding, I ask the question, “Who gives this woman to this man?” The father of the bride is expected to answer, “Her mother and I.” If we were to ask the same question to God, “Who gives this first woman to this first man?” God would have said, “I do.”
Eve’s heavenly Father walked her down the aisle in the Garden of Eden and presented her to Adam and God was saying to Adam, as it were, “Here’s my special gift to you. I have given you life to live: I have ‘breathed into [your] nostrils the breath of life’ (v. 7); I have ‘planted a garden in Eden’ to be your dwelling place (v. 8); I have given you food to eat (v. 9), now receive another gift from me—a woman who is to be your wife.”
Husbands, let’s remind ourselves that our wives are God’s precious gifts to us. Husband, do you indeed regard your wife as a priceless gift from the Lord? Do you cherish her? Second to Jesus Christ, is she the most important person in your life?
Second, Eve is God’s gracious gift to Adam.
After God had put Adam in the garden, God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone” (v. 18). God saw Adam’s need to have a wife. Thus, God took the initiative to meet that need. He created Eve and gave her to Adam. Adam did not ask for Eve yet God graciously gave this woman to him.
Husbands, our wives are God’s gracious gifts to us. We don’t deserve them. Yes, you might have prayed to have a wife but when God granted your request, you realized that He did so out of His mere grace, not because you deserved to have a wife. Husband, do you consider your wife an undeserved blessing from God? Do you humbly thank Him for that blessing?
Third, Eve is God’s suited gift to Adam.
Genesis 2:18 states, “I will make him a helper fit for him.” God knew what was best for Adam. He gave him Eve—a woman suitable for him—a woman who would complete, complement, and satisfy him socially, emotionally, & physically—a woman whom God would use for Adam’s good and God’s glory.
Husbands, our wives are not perfect, but God has given them to us because they are suitable for us—suitable to meet our needs, even our spiritual needs. Ultimately, our wives have been given to us for our sanctification. God can use both their strengths and weaknesses to conform us to the image of His Son. The grand goal of Christian marriage is Christlikeness! If you are not yet married and are looking for a wife, pursue a woman who will help you become more like Christ.
The wedding was done. And once Adam and Eve were married, they became one flesh: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (v. 24). In Ephesians 5:32 the Apostle Paul quotes this verse to illustrate the kind of relationship that exists between Jesus Christ and His church. Those who believe in Christ are united to Him. Husbands, our model is ultimately not the first Adam, but the second Adam. The first Adam was not perfect, but the second Adam was. Therefore, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Eph. 5:25).
In the next post we will look at Adam’s work.